• Helen Hattingh

How do you get better at what you do? Do you have a million ideas floating around in your head?

For most people, ideas are easy and plentiful but putting ideas into action is a whole different story. How do we tell the ones that should turn into actions from the ones that should be left as just ideas?

We find that the ideas that successfully turn into actions happen when we have the goals, the focus and the attitude aligned for success. Remember that success is defined differently for different people, so it is a very specific mix for individuals. There is no universal standard for success.

How can a life coach help you find out what you really want? How do you get better at what you do?

So often the things we tell ourselves that we want are not really the things we want at all. We believe we want them, but when we start unpacking why they seem important to us, they’re often embedded with what your parents wanted for you or what you think is needed for social status or your belief is tainted with limitation – so you think you want it because you fear aiming higher.

Change ignites the flight or fight response in our brain. Fear of the unknown, discomfort and lack of self-confidence translates into negative feelings and our brains are wired to protect us from change. So, to change you need to first tell your brain that this is something that you want.

Growth comes from change. A life coach will work through all the reasons not to do something with you and replace them with effective reasons to go for it. We spend hours trying to convince ourselves that change is not necessary. A life coach demands your accountability and will provide tools to enable you to pursue the change needed to reach your goal. A life coach holds you accountable by breaking the goal down into weekly chunks so that you’re less likely to toss in the towel. In this way, there is a weekly sense of achievement that makes you feel good about yourself and creates a desire to feel more of the same.

How would the people around you react to your change?

Well we can’t really tell, can we how other people will react to your path of change. But it’s easier to work out a plan and share information with them so that they too can prepare for your change – and change themselves too if they want to! Respect is earned by the application, dedication, and commitment to change. When you thought that your loved ones would laugh at you, they may instead become your best allies to keep you focussed on your journey.

Coaching brings value to what you do.

A coach listens – not only to the word that you speak but the emotion behind the words and the body language associated with the words and the meaning you associate with the words. Often a coach can identify blocks even if you are unaware of them on a conscious level. A coach helps you create habits of thinking, examining and learning. A coach identifies the issues that stand in your way and encourages you to observe these issues from another perspective.

Without another person’s input, you may not necessarily know how to solve these issues. Look at every sports team that hired a coach and track their improvement against a team that did not make use of a coach. Does this apply to other fields as well? A coach becomes your external eyes and ears. A coach sees things that you don’t recognize anymore.

There may be periods during the coaching lifespan, where you feel worse before you get better. This is the time of freeing yourself from that which no longer serves you. A coach may make you feel uncomfortable, but that comes with change, its part of the process. Once your eyes are open to alternative ways of seeing and doing things, the period of adjustment and change is uncomfortable, but hey, have you ever heard of a successful person that did not deal with failure? The discomfort is temporary and pushing through, paves the way to


Isn't it time you hired a coach?


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